10 WAYS TO TREAT YOUR WIFE WITH RESPECT

 

A husband’s treatment of his wife shows his inner strength. It is going to take some contemplation.

Treating one’s wife like a queen is the most natural wish of any married man.

It is a husband’s responsibility and principal duty to treat the lady of your life with the greatest respect and affection.

Sometimes, in the hustle and bustle of our modern-day life, husbands tend to grow distant from their wives, making the husband-wife relationship lose its spark.

Then again, once you get married, everything changes. A mutual understanding between husband and wife leads to a happy married life. Respect is necessary to make a marriage last. Respect your wife first if you want her to respect you. As it goes, respect begets respect.

There also some things husbands should stop doing, and how can some things unintentionally hurt your wife.

 

Here is a list of 10 things you should be doing to show love, care, and respect towards your wife.

 

1. Treat Her Respectfully In Front Of Everyone Else.

 

This is the first thing you must do as a better husband. How you treat your wife in public reflects what you think of her.

Treat her with dignity when both of you go out or are with other people. This is the best way of showing her that you consider her important and that you will never hurt her.

If you somehow end up arguing in public, apologise immediately afterwards. Do so, even if it is not your fault. Please do this as she is your wife.

Do not pass snide remarks about her in front of your friends or relatives. If she did something wrong outside, gently explain to her the right thing later instead of vocally criticizing her.

 

2. Do Not Hide Your Feelings From Her.

If your wife asks you what is on your mind when you look bothered, just answer quickly. This shows her that she is the only person in the whole world you can trust with your feelings.

Just tell her. Share your feelings with her.

Do not reply with “nothing” or “later” with an irritated tone. Your wife has the right to know what is on your mind.

 

3. Treat Her With Dignity In Front Of Your Children.

 

You must know how a husband should treat his wife in front of their children. Children always learn from adults, and since their minds are still malleable, your behaviour can leave a lasting imprint on their personality. For this reason, always make it a point that your behaviour towards your wife is that of respect and appreciation.

Speak politely with your wife when children are around. Discuss any disagreement or misunderstanding in private.

Never ever yell or shout at your wife in front of your children. You should not do that to your wife anyway. But when your children are around, do not have an intense, heated, and loud yelling match.

 

4. Do Not Hide Financial Information From Your Wife.

 

When you get married, you become a team. Both of you are partners and stakeholders in the household. And both of you will jointly manage, maintain, and improve the household.

Even so, you should have some autonomy in your finances. But at the same time, you must be transparent about it. Transparency about your personal finances is extremely important in securing a healthy and happy relationship.

Share your financial woes with your wife if you have a major decline in your income.

Men tend to hide their financial information when they are not doing well financially. But please do not do so with your wife. It may be quite detrimental if you hide crucial information from her. Also, when in a financial crisis, do not compel her to bail you out if both of you have limited funds.

 

5. Stop Acting Like You Are Better Than Her.

 

You may be earning more than her, or she may be only a homemaker. But that does not mean she is any way inferior to you. The relationship between husband and wife is one of equality. And always remember that she is no different from you.

Treat her as an equal!

Always be appreciative of what she does. And, if you are good at your job or role, show her how to improve as well. Cheer and encourage her in her career.

If she is a homemaker, make her day by showing appreciation of her efforts, and tell her you would be absolutely lost without her.

Do not shame nor ridicule her in any way if she does poorly in her career progression path. If she is a homemaker, do not ridicule her by saying that homemaking is not a real job.

Homemaking can be a thankless job. There is no salary, no perks, no retirement benefits, and, sometimes, no gratitude either.

Nothing more is going to hurt her more than her life partner harshly mocking her.

 

6. Always Decide Together.

 

Perhaps you have seen a new model of a car that you would love to own. Or you could be looking at a great TV deal or a new state-of-the-art electronic device.

Hold your horses and do not make an impulsive purchase. Rein in your enthusiasm and calm your desire. Go home, talk to your wife, and come back to the store together. Making decisions together is the very mark of a successful marriage.

Always consult your wife regarding every major or high-ticket purchase. Seek her opinion and ask her to list down her choices. Plan the purchase together and make it a point to buy it together.

If your wife says no to something, listen and understand her opinion. Also, never use words like ‘I do not care’ or ‘I am going to buy it anyway. You will certainly damage your relationship by talking this way.

 

7. Listen To Her With Interest.

 

Husbands tend to turn a deaf ear to their partner’s concerns or opinions. Being insensitive to your wife’s words can cause her immense emotional grief.

Always listen to your wife.

If you are doing something when she is talking to you, put aside what you were doing, and concentrate on what she has to say. Look her in her eyes while she is talking to you. Let her know that you are listening to her.

Pay attention.

Do not look away from her when she is speaking to you. If you are busy with something that cannot be delayed, let her know that politely.

 

8. Respect Her Privacy.

 

Sometimes, insufficient privacy ruins intimacy. Marriage does not consist solely in being together. It is also about being confident enough to give each other some privacy.

Do not go through her stuff unless she is fine with it. Always ask for her permission if you want to take something from her wardrobe or handbag. Also ask if you want to use her phone.

She will love your gesture of respect towards her privacy.

If she plans to go out with her friends on a weekend, it will be great for her do so. Let her have her own private time and space. Giving each other some breathing space is the best way to cultivate trust in the relationship. Eventually, you will realise that the moments you spend away from each other are the moments when your love blossoms the most.

 

9. Never Intimidate Her.

 

Physical or mental bullying and being pushy are condescending and is contemptuous of your partner’s feelings and emotions. Do not let your marriage fall apart by doing so.

If you ever get mad at her, do not react immediately. Instead, it is better to stay quiet for few minutes and then address the situation.

Sort out your problems together and reach a mutually agreed solution.

Just because you are the man of the house does not mean you have to be a dictator. Your wife is not expected to serve you round the clock. Do not treat her like a remote control for a television or an electronic appliance. You are both equals and being the primary breadwinner does not give you any additional power nor authority. Respect her and you will find your marriage very satisfying.

 

10. Always Provide Emotional Support.

 

At the end of the day, all your wife wants is to have you by her side throughout life’s vicissitudes. Your company and support throughout her life will bring her happiness.

Always hold her hand and be there for her during tough times.

Tell her that even if the world turns its back on her, you are going to be right next to her to comfort her. When life brings challenges, face them together and you shall prosper on your journey together.

Make it a point to always maintain a spark in your relationship. Always strive to nurture the bond you share with the love of your life.

 

Afterthoughts

 

Let your wife know that she is the queen of your world.

Use words of kindness and gratitude.

Verbal interaction between you two should be powerful enough to express your feelings.

If your wife sees how deeply you honour and respect her, she will respond in kind as well. Respect is the key to maintain a harmonious relationship.

You got to make her feel that she is the only one who is most important for you.

Know what should and should not be done.